Forgiveness

"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
Catherine Ponder

How many people do you resent? How often have you resented some situation that happened to you? So many of us do it all the time. When you feel any strong emotion about another person, you have bonded to them. When you feel good about them, then you will want that bondage. But when you feel bad about them, you want to be as far away from them as possible.

When we resent having to do something for someone, for example, we complain about it to whoever will listen long after it's already happened. We keep reminding ourselves of it over and over. We can't forget that person. We can't let go. We can't let bygones be bygones. Our emotions have bound us to them. This happens so often in so many ways that we don't even realize that we are doing it. We don't know that we can just let go. And we do that by forgiving.

In the case of us resenting having to do something for someone, the first person to forgive is ourselves for not excersising our right to say "no". Then we need to forgive the person for making the request of us in the first place. Forgiving is hard. It is just as hard to forgive ourselves as it is to forgive them. But the rewards are enormous.

Start practising foregiveness now. It does not mean that you condone what the person did or that you will tolerate it in the future. It just means letting go. You don't do it for them. You do it for yourself, to be free of the negative emotions that they are invoking in you.

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