Self-Confidence

The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you. Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved."
William Jennings Bryant

It is important to take an aggressive rather than a passive attitude towards life. We often fear aggression but the truth is that aggression is necessary in its appropriate place, which is in working towards a positive goal. It only becomes a problem when it is diverted into self-destructive channels because we beleive we can't succeed. We must beleive that we can conquer our obstacles and reach our goal, and we can't conquer anything without feeling aggressive towards it.

Many of us are lacking in self-confidence to begin with. We are often set up for this in childhood. Our parents unintentionally teach us that self-expression is morally wrong. If you were shamed or shut-up or humiliated or punished as a child for speaking up and expressing your ideas, you will “learn” that it is “wrong” to express yourself, to hold yourself out as having any worthwhile ideas or perhaps to speak at all. If you were punished for showing anger or fear, or even love, you learn that expressing his real feelings is wrong. If every time you come up with an opinion, you are “put in your place” you learn that it is “right” for you to be a nobody, and wrong to want to become a somebody.

For those who are in that situation, it is essential that we get a record of successful experiences behind us. It is best to start with small successes and build upon those. If your future is going to be your own creative choice, and a thing to be acheived, you must develop a good healthy confidence in yourself.

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