Revenge

"People who fight fire with fire usually end up with ashes.
Abigail Van Buren

People who are hurt by someone else, tend to want to hurt them back. "They're going to pay for what they did to me" Sometimes this revenge mode lasts for generations. Many times we hear of people who went to their deathbed not talking to each other. This kind of behaviour really is senseless.

When two people aren't even speaking to each other, what is accomplished? We've probably all experienced the frustration of wanting to explain our behavior and perhaps even apologize to another person who refused to even listen to us. In a situation like that, how is the original problem ever going to get solved? More than likely it will take on a life of it's own and a molehill will become a mountain in the eyes of the participants. Completely needlessly.

Most of us need to learn communication and problem solving skills. But most of all we need to change our attitude. We need to take ourselves less seriously. We need to realize that we are not always right or knowledgable, and there is a lot to learn from someone else's veiwpoint. Most of all, if someone seems like they want to apologize for their actions, we should always listen; and if they're sincere we should always forgive them. That way both of us can feel good about ourselves, instead of having us both feel bad about ourselves because we're mad at each other.

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