Desire

"Knowing I need to listen and knowing how to listen is not enough. Unless I want to listen, unless I have the desire, it won't be a habit in my life."
Steven R Covey

Do you really want to listen? Sometimes we get needing and wanting confused. And then we confuse what we really want with what other people want for us, or what they think we should want. We don't actually need very much other than to eat enough so that we're not hungry and sleep comfortably, and have a home to live in. Just about everything else is a want. Sometimes other people tell us that we need something and we beleive them. But nobody can know what you really need, or want, except you.

We often think that we want something just because someone else has told us that we should want it. Sometimes we want something because we want to please someone else who we know would be happy if we got it. Neither of these are authentic wants. They don't belong to you. Eventually you will end up feeling badly about what you are doing and resenting the person who made the request.

In order for something to become a habit in your life, it must be an authentic want. You must desire it because you can see how it will make you happier or move you towards your goals. If you know how to do it and do not wish to, then it won't get done; and certainly not consistently done for the 21 days that it takes for anything to become a habit.

Don't waste your energy trying to make something into a habit just to please someone else, or because you feel you need to. Only do those things you authentically want to do. Once you succeed in making them a habit, then reaching your goals will get easier.

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