Healthier

It is healthier to see the good points of others than to analyze our own bad ones. Francoise Sagan

How many faults of your own can you come up with? For most people it will be quite a few. We spend a huge amount of time criticizing ourselves. Sometimes we try to compare ourselves to an impossible ideal; we can never be rich enough or skinny enough. The advertising media love to cash in on our insecurities. They want us to beleive that unless we have the right make of car, for ex, we will never be rich or successful with the opposite sex. This is nonsense of course, but we are seduced into beleiving it when we are constantly bombarded with that kind of message.

It is probably the case that the more faults you see in yourself the more you will see in the people around you. Your attitude about the people around you will be reflected in their attitude towards you. We know underneath that all people are basically the same; so it stands to reason that if I am not a good person, if I have all these terrible faults, then other people must have them as well. And if other people know you think they have all these faults, they will start acting as if they did, too. And they won't like you or respect you.

It is much healthier to see the good points of others. For one thing, if we always compliment others on their good points, they will like us more and undoubtedly return the favor. Even more importantly, once again, we know underneath that all people are basically the same, so it stands to reason that if other people have all these good points, then I must have them as well. You feel better about yourself if you feel better about other people. Because we really are connected. Any opinions or feelings you send towards others do come back to you. So make sure they are good ones.